This is How to Get the Life You Want

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Are you getting what you want out of life?

Do you know what you want out of life?

Do you know how to get what you want?

In my last post, I talked about my friend Jeff who walked away from a successful company when he realized that what he was doing didn’t match his goals. It’s worth mentioning Jeff again. He knew what he was doing wasn’t a match for who he wanted to be because he knew who he wanted to be.

Do You Know Who You Want to Be?

Do you want to be a mother? A corporate executive? A barista? A father? A coach? A mountain climber?

The fact is, you can do nothing and still become something. Even people who aren’t planning their lives and aren’t paying attention have opportunities fall into their laps. If they take those opportunities, they sometimes make a nice life for themselves. The problem is, they also sometimes wake up half way through their lives and realize what they have is not what they want.

That’s why goal setting and then getting into action is such an important skill to master.

Goal setting makes you conscious of what you want, it makes you really consider what is important to you and why. If you get good at envisioning, stating and working toward your goals you protect yourself from living just the life you can get. Your goals are tools to hold yourself accountable for living the life you really want.

5 Tips for Setting and Achieving Your Goals

  1. Make sure your goals are specific
  2. Be honest – make sure your goals are your own, not what other people told you to make them.
  3. Make your goals measurable so you’ll know if you’re succeeding
  4. Make your goals realistic for who you are, your age and experience
  5. Commit to a time and date when you will have your goal completed
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Goal setting; it is a skill. It does take strength. But it can be learned.

And the first thing you have to learn is how to walk past “good enough” until you get to “right for me.”

Now Do This

  1. Identify a specific, measurable goal you want to achieve
  2. Decide when you will have completed the goal
  3. Email a trusted friend and tell them:
    • What your goal is
    • Why it matters to you
    • When you’ve committed to have it done
    • And tell your friend to hold you accountable for having it done by the time/date you committed to (you can add a consequence like having to buy them dinner or wash their car if that helps)

Making your goals specific, personally important, measurable, realistic and public can make a huge difference in your success achieving them.


Having a coach in your life can help you improve your goal setting skills and gain the focus and momentum you need to reach your potential. I'm here to help. Contact me today for a FREE 30-minute consultation.