As kids, we’re imprinted with beliefs for certain situations and behaviors.
We watch our parents. We see our elders. We look at how our peers perceive things such as people in authority, money and work ethic.
This behavior is then embedded into our subconscious.
When we get older and run into a similar situation -- one that reminds us of our past -- we suddenly flash back to a subconscious behavior. This default response is a trigger that causes us to respond in the same manner as when we were younger.
For instance, if you had a mean coach or teacher who smoked and liked to yell (who you didn’t care for), each time you see someone who shares these characteristics, you likely view that person in the same negative way as when you were younger.
Our minds are wired to protect and put us in a safe positions. So pushing yourself outside your comfort zone and beyond your safe place isn't natural.
You must force the action.
Remember, too, that whatever has made you hysterical is probably historical. Meaning if something really affected you emotionally when growing up -- either in a positive or negative way -- that event made an impact on your life and an impression into your subconscious.
At times, your past can block your mental growth and acceptance of new beliefs, causing you to live small and stay safe. This prevents you from expanding your mind and thinking more as an adult.